The idea to visit my daddy for his 70th birthday germinated sometime during the Christmas break of 2016 ... during our Cancun visit. The thought of surprising him was very very enticing, but I had visited India in summer and had almost emptied my vacation hours at work. I also changed groups at work place, so the comfort level with the manager / Biz associates was low. There was also the possibility of kids CASSP exams, tournaments ...and of course money involved.
The idea was discussed with sister .... she had similar considerations along with the fact that her kid was younger. She kept postponing the decision till late january. I had by then started enquiring different travel agents for a price quote. I was surprised that the ticket fare was not very high considering March is non seasonal / non peak time for travel from US to India.
Around this time, there were some site problems that my parents were facing in India. Some illegal occupants claiming to have the right paper work over my parent's site. This caused a lot of grief to my parents, especially dad. He put off any discussions on this matter, saying he would leave the matter in the hands of capable officers, God willing, everything would be settled in his favor. But we all knew this was his way of avoiding any discussions, he was deeply saddened by the events . My mama emailed me one fine day, saying he met daddy and he seem to have lost a lot of weight and he felt his health needed attention. He also warned saying that daddy had taken the site matter to heart which had affected his health.
That was it ... I could not debate any further with my sister or circumstances here in the US. I had to make that trip to India in March. Husband was very supportive, infact, he had been the one encouraging me to make that trip terming all my considerations as unimportant. To him, parent is above all ... no money, no career, no kid exam should stop one from being there for the parent. Anyways, when I told the sister I was making that trip irrespective of her situation, she wanted 2 days to sort out her side. Things fell in place, and sister also decided to make that trip. So we booked our tickets. This was the first time in 16 years of marriage, I was going to India with my sister and no kids. The trip itself was very short. We left on a friday and were back the following monday...but boy what a trip it was.... so so satisfying.
We left US on 10th march, 2017 and landed 12th early morning in Bengaluru. Sister's FIL was at the airport to receive us. We rested / ate breakfast with sister's ILs and went to my IL's house. We had booked the taxi in advance, thanks to my aunt. Quick hello to my niece, and wave to my aunt, we headed to Mysore around 11:00am on 12th. Although we had barely slept in the flight, both sister and me were highly energetic. We couldn't get enough of all the planning ...
Day 1 :(sunday) We managed to pack few return gifts in the ride to Mysore :) We had carried the return gifts / gift bags / sweet boxes / chocolates from US.We reached Mysore around 1:30pm. Parents were taking their afternoon nap when we knocked on the door. Daddy opened the door was extremely surprised to see us ... he couldn't believe his eyes for few minutes. We settled down and got down to Biz the same evening. We had catering / venue booking / gift packing / purchases to tackle and couldn't really put it off ...
We placed the order for a yummy pineapple pastry and headed for venue hunting along with my parents and V mama and aunty. After going through few places, we settled on Ruchi the Prince. It had a great outdoor space, stereo system , lighting. We discussed the table arrangement and took our time to finalize the rich dinner menu. ... Watermelon juice, Aloo chat, vegetable pakoda, Tomato soup, papad, vegetable biryani, corn salad, rasam, rice, curd rice, naan, navratan korma, daal, bhindi masala, mango ice cream, gajar halwa , meeta paan and banana :) I am boggled with how much food we eat ... We made personal phone calls to all invitees because not many had a clue about our visit. Only my aunt, V mama knew ....
Day 2 (monday): We headed to the mall for shopping clothes. Since it was a short visit, ended buying clothes for kids back home as well. Parents bought us clothes too ... grabbed a quick lunch in the mall and went to the jewelry store and bought a pair of gold studs for mom. Also bought sweets for all our guests and started packing the return gifts. The gift set included a set of kitchen towels (in the form of cute baby frocks), kesar pedas, chocolates, and cash for 1st family circle members. We also prepared games to be played during the party. We had bought table mat sets from US as prizes for the games.
Day 3 (tuesday): Daddy's 70th birthday... we were excited as family members from B'lore started coming home. The house atmosphere instantaneously turned festive :) We debated on our clothes to wear for the party, joked about each other, decided on mode of transport to the venue ... basically did stuff that families do when they gather together.
Sister, me and my aunt went first to the venue to ensure the table arrangements were done exactly how we had instructed them. We were glad they were, we only had to make minor adjustments. We also neatly arranged the "Receiving table" with gifts, arishiNa pottaNa and prizes for the games. Set up a special cake table (we carried special table clothes, chair covers from US) Guests slowly started arriving and were extremely pleased with the arrangement. We ensured we welcomed each family personally so daddy / mom could just relax and enjoy the evening.
We started off the evening inviting few family members on stage and recollect some memories they share with my dad. I was moved with all the heart felt messages / memories / words of appreciation / love family / friends had for my dad. A very humbling / touching experience it was ..
We cut the cake, started with the Antakshari with a twist. The teams were divided into Kalpana, Aarthi, Ramesh and Ambarish :) Crowd was enthusiastic ... the food kept flowing fresh / hot off the stove. There was mass request for a game of Bingo and we played the same as dinner was served.
Everyone seem to have a great time. We took pictures, ensured guests were attended / fed. The night ended around 10:30pm and we got back home to prepare for the Sathyanarayan pooja the next morning.
Day 4 (wednesday): The day started early ... once we were ready, we headed to V mama's house where breakfast was arranged. We wanted to help ... but apparently our aunts / uncles the experienced ones already had everything taken care. We spent sometime with them and came back home. The pooja started on time, family members arrived on time as well. It was a hot day, so we served juice to cool down the heat ... The pooja ended right around lunch time, and the caterers arrived just in time. Chairs were cleared, plantain leaves laid out and food was served. The food was not great, but the mood, atmosphere more than made up for it. Once lunch was taken care, we all stretched and laughed and joked some more, took pictures and soon it was time for Bangalore families to leave. We thanked them for their short visit ... and they assured us that they wouldn't miss it for anything. We finally relaxed that night, after all the travel from US for only for these 2 days and we had achieved what we came for. It was extremely well spent and daddy was extremely pleased with the way the days were spent.
Day 5 (thursday): It was a day we just lazed around ... morning breakfast from a restaurant, fab india shopping, some more shoe shopping, clothes shopping, sugar cane juice, bhel puri ...
Day 6 (friday): Lunch at V mama's house, day spent with chikkamma, of course shopping and eating ....Bought sweets, packed stuff, ate puff / sponge cake from Raghavendra bakery, parents bought some more gifts / clothes for us / kids.
Day 7 (saturday) : Started early to arrive in B'lore chatra at 8:00pm. It was cousin P's baby shower. Yummiest masala dose / dumroot breakfast ... mingled some more with extended family. Visited ILs place again ... said our good byes to everyone and came to the airport.
Day 8 (sunday) : Flight delay ... 1:30am slight postponed to 4:00am .... time spent in B'lore airport was very very tiring .... but then arrived on time in California to be greeted by husband and kids. Didn't sleep a wink in the flight ... I guess sister and I memorized the "Who wants to be millionaire" question / answers. The kids were delighted to see me back ... they loved their gifts and sweets ...
The next few days were spent in terrible jet lag ... although I had to work. But overall the short visit to India was memorable in all ways ... every penny spent on the trip was well spent.
The idea was discussed with sister .... she had similar considerations along with the fact that her kid was younger. She kept postponing the decision till late january. I had by then started enquiring different travel agents for a price quote. I was surprised that the ticket fare was not very high considering March is non seasonal / non peak time for travel from US to India.
Around this time, there were some site problems that my parents were facing in India. Some illegal occupants claiming to have the right paper work over my parent's site. This caused a lot of grief to my parents, especially dad. He put off any discussions on this matter, saying he would leave the matter in the hands of capable officers, God willing, everything would be settled in his favor. But we all knew this was his way of avoiding any discussions, he was deeply saddened by the events . My mama emailed me one fine day, saying he met daddy and he seem to have lost a lot of weight and he felt his health needed attention. He also warned saying that daddy had taken the site matter to heart which had affected his health.
That was it ... I could not debate any further with my sister or circumstances here in the US. I had to make that trip to India in March. Husband was very supportive, infact, he had been the one encouraging me to make that trip terming all my considerations as unimportant. To him, parent is above all ... no money, no career, no kid exam should stop one from being there for the parent. Anyways, when I told the sister I was making that trip irrespective of her situation, she wanted 2 days to sort out her side. Things fell in place, and sister also decided to make that trip. So we booked our tickets. This was the first time in 16 years of marriage, I was going to India with my sister and no kids. The trip itself was very short. We left on a friday and were back the following monday...but boy what a trip it was.... so so satisfying.
We left US on 10th march, 2017 and landed 12th early morning in Bengaluru. Sister's FIL was at the airport to receive us. We rested / ate breakfast with sister's ILs and went to my IL's house. We had booked the taxi in advance, thanks to my aunt. Quick hello to my niece, and wave to my aunt, we headed to Mysore around 11:00am on 12th. Although we had barely slept in the flight, both sister and me were highly energetic. We couldn't get enough of all the planning ...
Day 1 :(sunday) We managed to pack few return gifts in the ride to Mysore :) We had carried the return gifts / gift bags / sweet boxes / chocolates from US.We reached Mysore around 1:30pm. Parents were taking their afternoon nap when we knocked on the door. Daddy opened the door was extremely surprised to see us ... he couldn't believe his eyes for few minutes. We settled down and got down to Biz the same evening. We had catering / venue booking / gift packing / purchases to tackle and couldn't really put it off ...
We placed the order for a yummy pineapple pastry and headed for venue hunting along with my parents and V mama and aunty. After going through few places, we settled on Ruchi the Prince. It had a great outdoor space, stereo system , lighting. We discussed the table arrangement and took our time to finalize the rich dinner menu. ... Watermelon juice, Aloo chat, vegetable pakoda, Tomato soup, papad, vegetable biryani, corn salad, rasam, rice, curd rice, naan, navratan korma, daal, bhindi masala, mango ice cream, gajar halwa , meeta paan and banana :) I am boggled with how much food we eat ... We made personal phone calls to all invitees because not many had a clue about our visit. Only my aunt, V mama knew ....
Day 2 (monday): We headed to the mall for shopping clothes. Since it was a short visit, ended buying clothes for kids back home as well. Parents bought us clothes too ... grabbed a quick lunch in the mall and went to the jewelry store and bought a pair of gold studs for mom. Also bought sweets for all our guests and started packing the return gifts. The gift set included a set of kitchen towels (in the form of cute baby frocks), kesar pedas, chocolates, and cash for 1st family circle members. We also prepared games to be played during the party. We had bought table mat sets from US as prizes for the games.
Day 3 (tuesday): Daddy's 70th birthday... we were excited as family members from B'lore started coming home. The house atmosphere instantaneously turned festive :) We debated on our clothes to wear for the party, joked about each other, decided on mode of transport to the venue ... basically did stuff that families do when they gather together.
Sister, me and my aunt went first to the venue to ensure the table arrangements were done exactly how we had instructed them. We were glad they were, we only had to make minor adjustments. We also neatly arranged the "Receiving table" with gifts, arishiNa pottaNa and prizes for the games. Set up a special cake table (we carried special table clothes, chair covers from US) Guests slowly started arriving and were extremely pleased with the arrangement. We ensured we welcomed each family personally so daddy / mom could just relax and enjoy the evening.
We started off the evening inviting few family members on stage and recollect some memories they share with my dad. I was moved with all the heart felt messages / memories / words of appreciation / love family / friends had for my dad. A very humbling / touching experience it was ..
We cut the cake, started with the Antakshari with a twist. The teams were divided into Kalpana, Aarthi, Ramesh and Ambarish :) Crowd was enthusiastic ... the food kept flowing fresh / hot off the stove. There was mass request for a game of Bingo and we played the same as dinner was served.
Everyone seem to have a great time. We took pictures, ensured guests were attended / fed. The night ended around 10:30pm and we got back home to prepare for the Sathyanarayan pooja the next morning.
Day 4 (wednesday): The day started early ... once we were ready, we headed to V mama's house where breakfast was arranged. We wanted to help ... but apparently our aunts / uncles the experienced ones already had everything taken care. We spent sometime with them and came back home. The pooja started on time, family members arrived on time as well. It was a hot day, so we served juice to cool down the heat ... The pooja ended right around lunch time, and the caterers arrived just in time. Chairs were cleared, plantain leaves laid out and food was served. The food was not great, but the mood, atmosphere more than made up for it. Once lunch was taken care, we all stretched and laughed and joked some more, took pictures and soon it was time for Bangalore families to leave. We thanked them for their short visit ... and they assured us that they wouldn't miss it for anything. We finally relaxed that night, after all the travel from US for only for these 2 days and we had achieved what we came for. It was extremely well spent and daddy was extremely pleased with the way the days were spent.
Day 5 (thursday): It was a day we just lazed around ... morning breakfast from a restaurant, fab india shopping, some more shoe shopping, clothes shopping, sugar cane juice, bhel puri ...
Day 6 (friday): Lunch at V mama's house, day spent with chikkamma, of course shopping and eating ....Bought sweets, packed stuff, ate puff / sponge cake from Raghavendra bakery, parents bought some more gifts / clothes for us / kids.
Day 7 (saturday) : Started early to arrive in B'lore chatra at 8:00pm. It was cousin P's baby shower. Yummiest masala dose / dumroot breakfast ... mingled some more with extended family. Visited ILs place again ... said our good byes to everyone and came to the airport.
Day 8 (sunday) : Flight delay ... 1:30am slight postponed to 4:00am .... time spent in B'lore airport was very very tiring .... but then arrived on time in California to be greeted by husband and kids. Didn't sleep a wink in the flight ... I guess sister and I memorized the "Who wants to be millionaire" question / answers. The kids were delighted to see me back ... they loved their gifts and sweets ...
The next few days were spent in terrible jet lag ... although I had to work. But overall the short visit to India was memorable in all ways ... every penny spent on the trip was well spent.
